Marriage: A decade and beyond

"Men and women cannot be friends" quoted in Harry met Sally was true for us! We complete a decade of togetherness. A huge celebration that deserves a lot of attention and grace. Though one cannot deny the many ups and down. Its been an exciting journey - be it changing house, school, job or diapers.

 

 

Here are the 3 things i learnt about marriage.

 

  

1. Staying married is a daily commitment :

In the uneasy times we live in, marriage is NOT a once in a life time commitment. It is going beyond fond memories and good luck ! Being happy(ly) in marriage is making a choice on an everyday basis. Deep acceptance of what brings us together and our differences makes living together meaningful

 

 

 

2. Marriage is more than just having kids

This is the first picture of the sibilings at the birth of our daughter. Our Kids (Siddanth & Samara) have been an important part of our marriage. They are not in the absolute centre. They are not the reason that keeps us together. The reality is kids demand attention, time and space away from US. One of the ongoing struggles is to find the "me" and "us" time.

 

3. Marriage is about the little moments

This picture captures the first day our 2.5 year old son went to Pratham Montessori school. I was a few months pregnant and a bit uneasy about how he will cope with separation. What i remember most about the day is that i was not alone. For me what has remained special in our marriage are the tiny and seemingly insignificant moments. They have made us giggle, pause, cry, walk or just talk (mostly i talk) a bit more about what matters to us.

I just want to end by saying what i love most about being married to my dear husband @Rajeev

1. He is secure about me
2. He lets me be me
3. He helps me by being honest about me 

As we together step into the next decade, i feel like happy marriage is a state of mind !AMEN !

Women for Women : International Women Day !

Tomorrow (8th March 2013) is International Women's Day.

I know I know ... most of us (women) will get a year load of attention in one single day and night.

Everyone will profusely and shamelessly thank the women in their life.

Media, Twitter, Facebook will post-repost (retweet / favourite) funny or/ and profound messages.

There will be a lot of positive talk about women in business, home, education and society.

Blah Blah Blah Blah

 

Despite all the noise and gaze, tomorrow is a special day.

It is an opportunity to thank all the women our life.

It is an opportunity to honour our grandmother, mother, sister, daughter, best friend(s),friend(s), aunt(y), maid(s) and mentors.

 

Dear special women (girls) in my(your) life

Thank you for being part of my life.

In seeing you, I see myself

In your struggle I see mine

I feel understood when not much is said

I feel contained in sharing my deepest fear

You generously step in when I need support and strength

You are my most transparent - reflective mirror

You dont mince words and feelings and I deeply value that

You make my life as a WOMEN worthwhile

Thank you ! Thank you ! Thank you !

 

 

Here is a poem i wrote a few day back which is dedicated to all of you women out there


Women for Women
Girls for Girls
Coming Together
Standing Together
For Together is Strength, Vulnerability and Joy
Get Together, find your (Female)soul Circle