Quality Time

Waiting outside my son's school, a parent casually mentioned "i used to spend better quality time with my son when i had lesser time. Now that i have much more time on hand, he sees the worst in me"

The conversation got me thinking
Even though this statement represents a paradox. Its a reality for many of us

Most of our lives are driven by scarcity.
Precious life decisions are made when confronted with a difficult situation
We realize the value of people when they disappear from our lives
No No .. the topic is not morose

Quality time translates to !
a) Investment on a person in terms of praise, growth, development, fun, joy... Not only time.
b) Relating from a "guilt free" / " non compensatory" position
c) Mutuality - it cannot be "only" your need to spend time
d) being aware of changing expectations across relationships (age, emotional stage of relationship...)

I love Stephen Covey 's concept "emotional bank accounts". Review your relationships. Focus on actions you can take to "transform" the dead / un healthy relationship

In essence the indicator of a good relationship is many things including spending quality time.

Dont worry - be happy !!!!

'I have a dream' - Dedicated to Obama

Its a huge moment for most of us who have been following the US elections.

I think the fact that he WON, gives us HOPE

'Hope' that dreams can be achieved

Big or small

In your dream, others will join in

There may be hurdles - but the power of the dream itself will take it through ! 

We thank you Obama

You are reinforced to us that dreams can be achieved.!

My dedication to all of us for our own personal dreams - my favourite song from Abba

I have a dream, a song to sing

To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
Ill cross the stream - I have a dream

I have a dream, a fantasy
To help me through reality
And my destination makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
Ill cross the stream - I have a dream
Ill cross the stream - I have a dream

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
Ill cross the stream - I have a dream
Ill cross the stream - I have a dream